For too long, I had a pretty fucked up definition of good sex. As long as he had a hot face, a masculine attitude and at least one standout body part, it was good in my book.
How the sex went down didn't matter much. What did matter was to get the chance to cum with the thought this guy is so fucking hot.
True story: One guy - hotter than hell - gave me parasites. Twice.
And I still considered the sex to be good.
Over time, the definition changed. Now, I pay equal attention to what runs through my head after my hard-on fades. If I'm happy, it was good sex. If there's regret or worry, it wasn't.
Who he becomes after he shoots his load, factors in now as well. If he shape-shifts into a dark entity, or gets nervous about what we did, the sex can't score too high. After I cum, I make the effort to keep the good feeling going. Sometimes, it requires a bit of work though.
I've fucked around enough to be able to spot an awesome sex partner after just a few moves. And I've gotten enough STDs to know I need to be careful about whom I fuck & how I fuck. Sometimes, you can tell right away that a guy is potentially high-risk for follow-up doctor's visits.
What I can't predict yet is what he's going to be like after he cums. There seems to be no rhyme or reason to that one. But not letting him take big risks - no matter how much safer it is for me - usually avoids him from regretting what we did afterwards.
So, what's good sex? When we both still feel good about it after we've cum. Great sex is when I catch myself smiling about it a week later.
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